Premature Ejaculation: Men’s Most Common Sexual Dysfunction

istock_000002032183xsmallPremature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions that men suffer from.  Premature ejaculation problems are also the most-often complained about problems for couples who are seeking relationship counseling.

Part of the great problem with premature ejaculation is that it’s either too embarrassing to face in the minds of so many men, or it’s misunderstood. Yet perhaps 40% of all men experience this problem.

“P.E.” means that a man ejaculates before his woman reaches orgasm.

There are two kinds of P.E.: Primary and Secondary. Those with primary P.E. are men who have had the problem since they reached their full sexual maturity in their late teens. Most often, males between the ages of 18 and 30 have this problem. They have always had difficulty controlling their ejaculations, either because they reach climax very, very quickly or they ejaculate even from things like visual sexual arousal when they haven’t even made physical contact with a woman.

Secondary P.E. typically occurs in men of middle age: 45 through 65. These men never had any P.E. problems before, or if they did they only had them very briefly when they were having their first sexual experiences and quickly got them under control; but suddenly, they are suffering from premature ejaculation now.

The problem, as you may know, with a man climaxing and ejaculating before the woman has had an orgasm is that sex stops right after the man ejaculates. Ejaculation triggers the primitive, instinctual brain to tell the central nervous system and the genital area that the sexual mission is over for now. The man quickly relaxes and his penis cannot remain hard, and goes flaccid. He may even feel drowsy as the adrenaline rush subsides. For the time being he has very little interest in sex at all.

The typical man reaches orgasm faster, often much faster, than the typical woman. This fact has caused relationship stress and sexual dissatisfaction from the most ancient times. In order for a woman to be fulfilled physically, and for the man to be fulfilled emotionally, the woman has to orgasm first or they have to share a simultaneous orgasm. Sex may not be all there is to a romantic relationship, but it is still the central component and when it’s suffering relationships, including marriages, can be broken. Thus, it’s in a man’s best interest to learn to delay ejaculation (it’s not orgasm, but ejaculation, that causes the man’s flaccidity and loss of sexual appetite).

The primary P.E. problem may lie in the often uncontrolled imagination of youth, or the sexual inexperience of youth. Young men who have not mastered techniques of delaying ejaculation may not even understand that they can train themselves to last longer. Sometimes, P.E. results just from mental and emotional sexual arousal–so a young man may begin ejaculating just from looking at or merely kissing the woman–this can especially happen if he has not ejaculated in a few days or longer, as his testes will be more full of sperm that his instincts want him to “get up and get out” of him.

The secondary P.E. problem may be due to anxiety–having a “middle age crisis”–or it may result from being out of shape, since ejaculation involves a spinal reflex and muscle contraction.

But both primary and secondary premature ejaculation problems may be the result of insufficient serotonin levels in the brain. This can be solved with a serotonin supplement such as Detain X.


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